- In Kerstin Caldwell on
Denied yourself this weekend, did you? This week, say YES! to food, fun and frivolous consumption. Eat a cupcake like you used to…. smashing frosting all over your face without worrying about the mess. Let your dog clean up the remainder and then run him around the block a few more times tonight.
It’s worth it!
Oh wait, what was that? Is your hard drive humming a little too loudly or was it the whir of a fluttering humming bird? Jump up and check. Stop what you’re doing for a sec and appreciate the wonders around you. Take a deep breath, stretch and give thanks for life.
You’re doing great!
This week’s YES! Assignment from The YES! Lab:
Notice yourself holding back from doing that thing you really want to do right now? What keeps you from jumping in and doing it already? As long as that spontaneous thing within your heart doesn’t hurt you or anyone else, go for it! Imagine all of the joy you could be missing out on once you give it a whirl.
It’s hot, it’s sticky and you might just want to rip off your clothes and run through the sprinkler. Say YES! to being cool. Depending on your ‘hood mates and prying eyes, you may want to wear a swimsuit.
Everything in life is a game.
- Making a sandwich
- Filling the car with gas
- Doing laundry
- Inflicting your inner frustration on another person
Obviously, some games are far more fun than others.
There are mundane tasks we all get through without being present because of their nature. We must complete them for our own survival. We all need to eat, get to work and have clean clothes. How do you infuse play within such games? By making them more playful, they become no big deal.
There are also behaviors at the root of our humanity that appear when we feel hurt. We play these games as behavioral defense mechanisms when fight or flight is present within our bodies. Although we cannot entirely avoid such games, every human has the ability to choose how to engage in them. By making the choice to alter how we play these games, we are changing the rules of the game. Rather than making our next move be a continuation of passing frustration from person to person, we change the game. We give space for people to feel hurt- we stand patiently before them in love while supporting them through their suffering. Neither one may know how to proceed within this new game, but what makes it fun is figuring it out as we go–together.
In the end, all games come from the heart. I invite you to change how you play your games by playing from the heart.
I’ll be teaching most every Tuesday and Thursday this summer. Join me and remind yourself how to find play with new rules that lead toward freedom.
Now if you’ll excuse me, Mama has some laundry to play.